Why does mom love my older bro so much more ?

for his 18th birthday she bought him a 1962 corvette stingray. and gave me roller blades for my 18th birthday. his college tuitiion was paid for plus she got money for living expenses, i had to take out a $50000 loan. now for his 30th birthday she is building him a house at Hilton Head. She is now allowing me to stay at home for my last year of college as long as i pay rent ($350/month + 1/2 of utilities and gas for the car). i'm much darker than the rest of my family...perhaps i was adopted...i need to look into this..any suggestions ?

Why does mom love my older bro so much more ?
haha with the difference in skin tone sounds like you were probably just a mistake from the mailman!! She probably can't stand you and wishes you never were...! Dude like seriously i saw this stuff on CSI and they can find your real dad... forget your mom, steal her money and run w/ it!
Reply:Woah. Ask her. Confront her.


Honestly, I would have.


Use your examples.





"Mom, we need to talk." Sit her down. "I want to be treated fairly, I would appreciate it if you listened, to the whole thing"


Pause. "I think you are treating me and _your_bro's_name_ differently. I feel upset you are treating him better." Let your mom respond. "For his 18th birthday, you got him a car. I got roller blades." Pause "His colledge tuition was paid for, aswell as living expenses. Why was mine not? Why do I have to pay rent for living with you? Why for his 30th birthday you're getting him a house?" Let her respond. "I want to be treated fairly.." That's what I'd say.
Reply:How old are you??


You said building him a home at Hilton Head for his 30th


but you are allowed to stay home for your last year of college.


So you are still in college...just wondered if your life style may be something that she does not approve of..have you ever had a big disagreement with her that she may still be holding


over your head. Do you and your brother have similar personalities? I just have questions because wonder what could be the reason..Is she closer to him . Like he visit more or suck up ??? Got to be something we didn't hear.
Reply:talk to her....be open and honest, its all you can do.


explain to her how you feel, be calm and genuine, and if she reacts badly then....her loss


dont let her favouritism ruin your life, make the effort to straighten it out and if she doesnt respond, try and move on...i know its difficult and you've got a right to be upset but dont let it take over your life


good luck xox
Reply:i say bring it up with her. it sounds like extreme favoritism. she should know how it makes you feel. and i guess you can look into the adoption thing
Reply:My god your mum sounds like a *****. You should confront her about this before you do something that you regret.


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